The holidays can be hard, especially if there is a child, or anyone really, missing from the picture, so here is your bill of rights for a healthy holiday season. Use these rights to put together a plan of how you will face this difficult time of year for the grieving. I cannot take credit for creating these "rights," it was done for my work newsletter, so I have altered a few to fit the needs of those grieving the loss of their babes through miscarriage or stillbirth.
1) you have the right to take care of yourself: to eat right, exercise regularly, and get enough rest.
2) you have the right to have mixed emotions: happy, sad, frustrated, angry, guilty, afraid, and thankful.
3) you have the right to cry when you are sad, smile when you are happy, and not feel guilty about either.
4) you have the right to say no to any holiday activities- to pace yourself differently. You also have the right to change your mind about a previous commitment.
5) you have the right to share your feelings, or not. You also have the right to choose who you share your feelings with and who you don’t.
6) you have the right to solitude: for planning, thinking, reflection, introspection, prayer, and relaxation.
7) you have the right to remember your baby in a meaningful way and incorporate him/her into your holiday plans and traditions.
8) you have the right to ask for help from friends, family, your church, or other group.
9) you have the right to follow old traditions or make up new ways of celebrating the holidays.
I hope this can help you alleviate a little stress and heart ache during the holidays!